Today I woke up and ate half a banana.

I fought with Jessica. I told her I need help. She gave me things to do and told me I need to retrain my brain.

I took my morning meetings.

Went to the psychiatrist.

Went grocery shopping.

Took my afternoon calls.

Browsed the net.

And now Jess and I are knocking out bills and Christmas cards.

Why do I have this natural instinct to argue? To fight back? To respond with defensiveness, facts, logic, warp any argument like a lawyer? How can I retrain my brain? Instead how can my first thought be, “How can I love this person right now, even if they aren’t happy with me?” That is my job as a husband.